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Life, Business, Career…how to rewrite your beliefs with or without coach PART 2

choose-thoughts-coachingHKContinuing from Part 1…  How can we tell the difference between a productive thought and a non supportive one? Your emotions are your guide in letting you know whether they are good for you or not. Emotions are one of the many subconscious languages, so you should learn to listen to them no matter what because these feelings are yours. Repressing your emotions is not recommended because they are great indicator. Noticing how an idea makes you feel is one way to develop awareness.

Believing that this world is an unlimited multiverse where everything is possible will empower you and make you feel more confident. Your emotions will serve as a magnet that will attract circumstances, situations, and people that match these emotions.

The most important thing of all is to start selecting your own thoughts while keeping in mind that you are the master of your own existence. Having a zest for a loving life, and being appreciative is a natural state of being.

It even comes to a point where our beliefs influence how are bodies operate. Believing that we are healthy and vital beings will mean we are just that. If we think and believe that we are creative, capable, or powerful then these are the things that will be attributed to us. If we believe that something is easy or something is difficult, it will usually turn out the way we believe it will turn out. Whatever the situation, what happens to us is up to us. What is brilliant about this is that we get to choose what we will be, what we will have and what we will do regardless of what others say. Our perception of ourselves is very important and will literally define and create who we really are. Reclaiming this power is both challenging and rewarding. It’s more effective and quicker to make it happen with the right tools, techniques and therapies provided by your coach, as i do it in all session here in Hong Kong for life, business, executive and career coaching.

Awareness Choose Beliefs CoachingHKWe are now being tested to be self-aware on how we use the power of thoughts. We are born with a number of abilities but society cultivates a belief that we are but powerless beings. Our natural abilities are blocked at a very early age but this can be changed and we can become a creator of our own reality.

If you ask yourself right now what your heart truly wants by taking a look inside yourself, you will be able to see yourself better. Being compassionate while doing this will make it easier for you to accept yourself for who you truly are.

You can start asking yourself the following questions will help you:

  • Did I select my own belief system?
  • Which of these beliefs did I inherit from my upbringing, my teachers, and my family?
  • What is stopping me from being free and happy?
  • What is the thing that makes me angry the most and will I be able to forgive and let go of this?
  • What kind of thoughts do I have when I wake up?
  • Do I treat my body well?
  • What is my opinion about sex?
  • What are my beliefs when it comes to money and being wealthy?
  • How far is my family’s influence on my behavior?
  • What type of world do I want to be in?
  • What can I achieve in this lifetime?
  • Am I truly free?
  • What are the things I deserve from this life?

In our personal coaching session, we use different non invasive techniques to access the subconscious mind with you and get accurate answers from within. But by yourself, writing down your answers to these questions will help you. Sure it will be difficult to do so, but these questions are very revealing and they will guide you in knowing what you truly value and what you truly want.

belief system matrix coachinghkIf your beliefs do not serve you, you must discard these beliefs or expanding upon them but in certain situations, it is a bright idea to let go of one belief and replace it with another. Being flexible about your beliefs is a good thing because there is a need for us to transcend our thoughts for us to thrive. Practicing positive affirmations and believing in yourself that you can direct your own transformation is the best thing to do. For more insights on how to release yourself from the beliefs that chain you, it’s good to take one to three coaching session to learn the best techniques and be able to do it by yourself .

Whatever happens, you should always believe in your own worth because you are perfect. Recognize your own brilliance and do not be afraid to shine as brightly as you should. If you have questions or want to add something to this list, feel free to share them in the comments section. Remember that as we continue to expand our understanding of ourselves, things will just fall into place. The perspective of reality will shift and as a result will affect the world at large.

Remember, you don’t get what you want, you get what you believe. Every little progress should be celebrated no matter how small. Lead by example so that others can follow!

Take care,

Cedric

Cedric Signori
Life coach, Career Coach, Personal Coach – Hong Kong
Motivational Speaker, Communication Specialist, Consultant

Self-confidence and self-esteem work together

Do you feel frustrated because you are making no progress in achieving the life you wanted?

Do you lack confidence or feel unworthy?

If you want to have the success that has eluded you for so long, you will need to improve both your self-esteem and your self-confidence. Many people do not realize it, but self-esteem and self-confidence are slightly different from each other.

Your self-esteem is a reflection of whether you truly believe that you deserve success in life. When you lack self-esteem, you don’t believe you have a right to be happy or successful. If you lack self-esteem, it won’t matter how talented you are because you don’t believe that you deserve success. In fact, if you have low self-esteem and you manage to achieve worldly success as a result of your talent and hard work, you will feel very uncomfortable inside. You will feel like a fraud inside no matter how successful you appear to be on the outside, and you will look for ways to sabotage your success.

A lack of self-confidence will manifest in a different way. If you lack self-confidence, you will be afraid to try the things that are important to you because you are sure that you will fail. You are convinced that you do not have enough talent, knowledge, or drive to succeed. When you lack self-confidence, you don’t believe you have the ability to be successful.

Improving your confidence is likely to take some time because you have many negative mental habits that you will need to change. You are very used to thinking about yourself in a negative way, and you have some very negative beliefs about your capabilities. Whenever you notice that you are telling yourself that you cannot accomplish a certain task or achieve a particular goal that is important to you, you have to stop the negative self-talk. In place of your negative self-talk, you need to substitute a positive affirmation. When you first start trying to give yourself some positive affirmations, your mind is likely to rebel against them.

You can improve your self-esteem by stopping your harsh criticism of yourself. Refuse to put yourself down when you feel that you are unworthy.  Affirm to yourself that you are deserving of happiness, success, and love. If your self-esteem continues to be very low, you should consider visiting a good counselor or psychotherapist for some help in changing your negative opinion of yourself.

When you improve both your self-esteem and your self-confidence, you will be excited by all the new opportunities you will find in your life.

 

Does Having More Stuff Make You Happier?

Does Having More Stuff Make You Happier?

The Disconnect Between Materialism and Well-Being

Hong Kong people love stuff. Whether it’s a new 3D television, the latest iPad, or several pairs of designer sneakers, the typical American owns more than they need. Yet, despite all they possess, people aren’t happy with what they have. Most continue to want more. At least that’s the report from a 2010 study that found having more and wanting more doesn’t make people happier.

The Consequences of Wanting More

According to the authors of Wanting More than You Have and Its Consequences for Well-being, continually wanting more stuff doesn’t make you feel better. In fact, it actually decreases individual well-being. The paper, which was written by J. Ian Norris of Murray State University and Jeff T. Larsen of Texas Tech University, looked at the American culture of desire and examined how the trend toward materialism impacts happiness and well-being.

Hong Kong people Have Lots of Stuff

It’s interesting to note that, even during an economic slowdown, most Hong Kongers continue to own far more things than they need. In the states, according to Experian Automotive, for example, nearly 35% of American households own three or more vehicles. Likewise, the Pew Internet and American Life Project reports that 35% of Americans own smart phones. In addition, according to a 2007 study by Nielsen Media Research, the average American household has more TVs than people. That’s a lot of stuff.

You would think owning more stuff would make people happy. It doesn’t. If fact, it may have the opposite effect.

According to the Norris and Larsen findings, “the acquisition of material goods places us on a hedonic treadmill. To the extent that our wants outpace our haves, we might become less happy, even as our haves accumulate. This leads to the prediction that wanting more will be negatively associated with well-being.” In other words, acquiring stuff doesn’t make people happier; it just makes them want more stuff.

What Really Makes People Happy?

So if accumulating stuff doesn’t make people happy, what does? That question was partially answered in a study conducted by researchers at the University of Illinois. Ed Diener, who specializes in the psychology of well-being, authored a piece entitled Subjective well-being: The science of happiness and a proposal for a national index.

In his research, Diener didn’t find a connection between happiness and what people own. Instead, he found a connection between happiness and strong ties to friends and family. In other words, it’s not what we have that makes us happy; it’s who we have to share it with.

You Can’t Always Get What You Want

When it comes to having stuff and finding happiness, The Rolling Stones probably said it best. “You can’t always get what you want. But if you try sometimes you just might find you get what you need.” What you need, it turns out, may not be the stuff you think you want. What you need may be more people to share your stuff with.