Are you fed up with feeling overwhelmed or unfulfilled? Are you ready to transform the life you just live into a life you just LOVE? Changing your life can feel scary and unattainable when you try to go it alone… so bring a friend, a coach, or better yet, bring a life coach!
Making significant changes in your life is best facilitated by true partnership. That’s what the co-creative nature of coaching is all about. A life coach is like an objective friend with the expertise to guide you on journey of self-discovery and self-realization. If life’s lessons teach you anything at all, it’s that you don’t have to go it alone.
About a week ago it became very clear to me that the theme of this article would be friendship. After all, friendship is critical to success. When you combine challenge and togetherness you get effort, but challenge and solitude is an equation for struggle. And I don’t know about you, but I’ve had enough struggle to last me a lifetime.
Friend is an old English word which means “to love or to favor”. I can remember a time during my junior year of college when I really needed a friend. I was at a new University with a new major in a new town and I didn’t know a soul on my first day of class. Midway through the day, I mustered my courage and walked right up to a girl sitting across from me. With a big smile, I cheerfully said “Hi!”
To my total dismay, she said nothing. In fact, she didn’t even look up at me, but stared straight ahead as if she hadn’t seen me at all. I went back to my seat confused and embarrassed and tried my best not to look hurt. That was almost 20 years ago, and yet I can remember it vividly. Like a majority of painful memories it was based on lies; the lie that I was invisible and the lie that I was essentially alone.
So much has changed since then. I’ve grown and evolved and discovered the truth that I’m never alone. I learned that what’s most important is to be honest and be myself and understand deeply that that is enough. And I learned that by entrusting others with the truth, it creates a conduit through which the favors and love of friendship can flow outward. It’s only when I trust… that magic happens. Magic is full of wonder and life is full of magic. It happens when you need it the most and when you expect it the least. In fact, it happened just this afternoon.
As I worked in the garden, I considered how to introduce the essential friendship of life coaching to the millions of people who confuse it with therapy. I was pruning back the overgrown rhododendrons and the blackberry brambles and thinking to myself. The light was growing dim as I moved closer and closer to the mailbox. I set down my rake, crossed the street and pulled out my letters. Among the junk mail I discovered a card with a return address of a very dynamic woman I’d coached over the summer. The envelope was torn and taped and oddly postmarked twice. I could see that the card had become lost along the way, trying to keep up with me as I’d made two moves in just six months. The letter had come from across town and had started its journey in the middle of July. Here it was the last week of September, but the timing of its arrival couldn’t have been more perfect.
I opened it to find a sweet illustration of Winnie the Pooh and Piglet having tea with honey. The caption read “It’s so much more friendly with two”. Inside, I found a beautiful heartfelt inscription: “Thank you for your guidance and light as I continue my journey toward abundance, prosperity and joyful living. Woo hoo!!!”
I smiled with my whole body and I marveled at how life gives us such magnificent surprises and support in ways you could never imagine. I was reminded that true friendship is an invaluable exchange of a joy that encourages all life.
In the words of Donna Roberts:
“A friend is someone who knows the song in your heart and can sing it back to you when you’ve forgotten the words.”
Author : Joyanne Sloan