Do you feel frustrated because you are making no progress in achieving the life you wanted?
Do you lack confidence or feel unworthy?
If you want to have the success that has eluded you for so long, you will need to improve both your self-esteem and your self-confidence. Many people do not realize it, but self-esteem and self-confidence are slightly different from each other.
Your self-esteem is a reflection of whether you truly believe that you deserve success in life. When you lack self-esteem, you don’t believe you have a right to be happy or successful. If you lack self-esteem, it won’t matter how talented you are because you don’t believe that you deserve success. In fact, if you have low self-esteem and you manage to achieve worldly success as a result of your talent and hard work, you will feel very uncomfortable inside. You will feel like a fraud inside no matter how successful you appear to be on the outside, and you will look for ways to sabotage your success.
A lack of self-confidence will manifest in a different way. If you lack self-confidence, you will be afraid to try the things that are important to you because you are sure that you will fail. You are convinced that you do not have enough talent, knowledge, or drive to succeed. When you lack self-confidence, you don’t believe you have the ability to be successful.
Improving your confidence is likely to take some time because you have many negative mental habits that you will need to change. You are very used to thinking about yourself in a negative way, and you have some very negative beliefs about your capabilities. Whenever you notice that you are telling yourself that you cannot accomplish a certain task or achieve a particular goal that is important to you, you have to stop the negative self-talk. In place of your negative self-talk, you need to substitute a positive affirmation. When you first start trying to give yourself some positive affirmations, your mind is likely to rebel against them.
You can improve your self-esteem by stopping your harsh criticism of yourself. Refuse to put yourself down when you feel that you are unworthy. Affirm to yourself that you are deserving of happiness, success, and love. If your self-esteem continues to be very low, you should consider visiting a good counselor or psychotherapist for some help in changing your negative opinion of yourself.
When you improve both your self-esteem and your self-confidence, you will be excited by all the new opportunities you will find in your life.